Sometimes it is hard to talk with your children; they are often tired after school and just want to be left in peace! My eldest (11) has been struggling a bit at school of late, pressure of workload, tiredness and unpleasant behaviour from some of his classmates. So I reintroduced something my American sister in law suggested some years ago, a little jar of notes. You just take any old jar and fill it with nice, positive and funny messages, even silly things. They can then read them in their own time and when they happen to feel like it. They say actions speak louder than words and sometimes you just need to know, without it being said. It reminds me of this quote from Winnie the Pooh:-
“Piglet sidled up to Pooh from behind. “Pooh?” he whispered.
“Nothing,” said Piglet, taking Pooh’s hand. “I just wanted to be sure of you”
This link takes you to a website with some details, it may be a little OTT for us reserved Brits but take from it what you will and use it how you wish. It’s worth it, I went to bed the other night and found a note under my pillow, it read, “thanks Mum, you are funny, can’t wait for the Easter hols, love x” http://http://offbeatfamilies.com/2012/04/self-esteem-jar#.Uz0ZDvldUt0